When we left for Paris on April first, our son Arlo was one year and 11 months old. The style of parenting Shane and I had been attempting to adopt up until that point was based on a fair chunk of reading we’d done, with foundations of Magda Gerber’s RIE parenting strategies, and Jennifer Percy’s “Parentspeak.” Personally, I am interested in parenting “differently” than what is generally expected in and accepted by the modern world, with the hope that we will raise a child that “…you not only love, but you love being around,” as Gerber famously said. Well. Were we in for a shock. Spoiler alert for anyone planning an extended European adventure with a person who is little more than an infant, and who is developing at the fastest rate that he ever will in his life. Obstacle ahead!
We both had to start using “STOP!” and “NO!” much more frequently than we had been, as the boundaries and environment shifted around us. Every time we travelled, we both knew it was going to be fractured with little hurdles which involved keeping our child appeased; with boundaries that guarded him safely, but allowed him to grow. Some of you reading this might say that this is parenting a two year old… and you’re probably right. But as a first time parent, it’s very difficult to know if your child is “being a toddler,” or if you’re doing something wrong. When Arlo was under two, I would get compliments on my unending patience in the most frustrating situations. These days, that is far less likely to occur, and instead I have to count to ten with deep breaths or take a moment to myself to regain clarity and control. Man, is two years old a test of character. Mine, of course.
We’ve left France now, and have been on the road (literally, in a campervan) for three weeks. For sure, space is everything. A one bedroom apartment in Paris didn’t suit us, but a two bedroom apartment with a huge garden in Biarritz changed everything. Now, we’re travelling in our home and bedrooms are bunk beds. We both have to remind ourselves of some of the literature we’ve read, with the main takeaway being that “needs drive behaviour” and “environment is everything,” when trying to allow a child to flourish. Something I’ve discovered, low and behold, is that trekking through Italy in a campervan is actually not terribly simple when you have a toddler who needs big sleeps to refuel his seemingly boundless energy. And I mean boundless.
And now is the part that I talk about all the good stuff. We are, undoubtedly, very lucky to have been able to partake in this adventure. We created it ourselves; we made a big dream something achievable and we had the support of friends and family to prop us up. We knew that this sort of journey could only benefit both us as adults and even more so, our little boy. It’s been challenging, yes. But would I change anything? No! Would I recommend it for others with young children? Yes…but before having kids is advisable and favourable!
Being a parent in itself is a devine gift, no matter which deity you worship. Sometimes it seems like there are overextended moments of frustration, but these always pass and are flushed away with the sound of his sweet little voice, an unexpected embrace or just the memory that he is a tiny person, learning the ways of the world. And indeed, the world! At two years old, Arlo has seen more of the world than I had at 18. He’s been exposed to the acquisition of two languages at the same time. He has had the strength of perpetual love and full time presence from not one, but both of his parents for nearly seven straight months. He has a sense of adaptability that is beyond his two and a half years, and that will only increase in time. He’s been able to experience the culture and lifestyle surrounding not only one country, but a whole handful. He’s seen the beauty of snow capped mountains and had the joy of throwing snowballs with ice cold hands. His hair has been bleached with two, coming on three consecutive summers, and his love of the ocean is unmistakable.
Hopefully reading this, you sense the honesty I’m trying to convey. We have come across countless young parents, out doing the same things we’re doing (tourist-wise) but without their young kids. And I know this because it’s always them who approach us, making comments like “good for you, doing this with the little one!” and “we left ours at home!” and we all share a jovial little moment bonding as parents. A few hours later however, there’s a tired toddler who needs an explicit routine, yelling, roaring, hitting and spitting (I can’t believe I’m writing that) at people who want to pat his head and tell him how lovely he is. It’s these moments that we look at each other glaringly, both thinking the same thing – what do we do?
But alas, we leave Italy on Thursday and head to Switzerland, and by now we (sort of) know what we’re doing. And that’s a really good thing. I say sort of, because there are still lots of question marks; it doesn’t ever seem like we have anything solid established before things change again (#parentlyf.) And things are going to change again, because…we are now expecting our second child. I am twenty weeks pregnant, and seeing as I look like I’m nearly full term, we figured it’s probably time we shared the news. After Switzerland we fly to Hungary, then to Germany and Austria, and on to Scotland before we land in Sydney on October 27. We’ll spend two weeks seeing family and friends before heading home to Perth for Christmas, and to organise our home for baby number two.
I am excited to see what the future holds for us. Or should I say what my belly holds! When our first born is well slept, he is a gorgeous young human. Sensitive, affectionate and clever, he’s more switched on than your average toddler. He knows the difference between French and English and can name a vast number of things in both languages. He is funny and caring and rough with his toys and with Shane and I, and he’s inquisitive, confident and independent. At certain times too much so for the environment, if you ask me! I couldn’t love him more if I tried, and I am thrilled to be able to give him a brother or sister to grow up alongside. Arlo will turn three years old just after the baby arrives in early March, 2020.
Good for you, if you read to the end of this post! This is in fact our Pregnancy Announcement, and if you would like to leave a comment, I would love for you to post here on my blog instead of on the Facebook page link if that’s how you got here. That way the secret is reserved for those who read the whole piece of writing.
I appreciate the time every person takes to read what I write, so thank YOU for doing so.
Here’s a snap of my tummy 🙂 it feels bigger than it looks, I tell ya! Yes, I am wearing pyjama shorts, and don’t mind Shane’s undies off to the left 😂
Congratulations Gabrielle & Shane wonderful news. I’ve enjoyed reading your blogs & seeing your pictures.
We may see you all before you head back home we’ll be in Wollongong on Saturday 9th November. Enjoy the rest of your journey hope your keeping well.xxx
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Congratulations to you all. Such wonderful news to end your adventure. Have loved every minute reading about your travels. Well written & I love your honesty 🙂 Wishing you all a safe return home xxx
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Oh, Gabby! Congratulations!!!! I am sorry I have joined the party late and only just read this blog piece but nonetheless, I am so so happy.
I may have shed a tear of joy as each word got more and more raw until the crescendo that was the announcement! Thank you for sharing, I am so excited for you and your gorgeous family on this next chapter.
I hope to see you when you are settled back here in little old P-Town!
All the best until then,
Jaymee J
xx
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Thank you beautiful!!! See you soon, that’s for sure!!
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Congrats beautiful little family xxx hope to see u in p town soon x
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Excellent reading – honest and funny 😁
Enjoy the rest of your adventure see you back in Perth xx
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I have just come out in goosebumps when I read your secret, jolie fille!! How did I not guess that?! Warm congratulations to you both! Can’t wait to see you when you get back from your adventure.
In the meantime, stay well and happy and look after that bump!!
Big hugs Linda xxx
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Thank you lovely Linda 🙂 a catch you is in order for my return to Perth! Lots of love to you xxx
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Hey Congratulations Gab & Shane..I love reading your blog & yes you are a great writer & such wonderful parents. Loved meeting you 3 in Aix & so enjoy your photos & hearing about your many adventures…Bravo, you 3 darlings..bon fin de vacance! and happy new bebe!
Gros Bisous. Daria
ps I still have Arlo’s doggie, it is our new apartment in Aix!!
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Congratulations you bloody legends!! So unbelievably happy for you three. ❤️
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Thank you my love 🙂 how’s Christmas 2020 in Perth looking for you??? ❤️🌹🌈 love you xox
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Congratulations! Can’t wait to catch up when you are home and for our little men to meet finally xx
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Thank you lovely! Absolutely can’t wait 😊 hope you’re doing really well, big love xxx
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Love reading your blog of your fabulous adventures – you write so beautifully. Congratulations to the three of you. That is such wonderful news. You look beautiful Gabbie. Oh and I hear you on the “twos!” – I find myself uncertain as to how best to deal with Ava on many occasions 🙄
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Thanks Peta! It’s comforting knowing we’re not the only ones 😂 hope you’re well xxx
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Congratulations to you both! Amazing news! Xx
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Thanks Tiff! 🌹❤️
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I have butterflies from the excitement. Pregnant,
and you guys are coming home. Tears of joy I tell ya, tears of bloody joy
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Hahah you’re the best aunty Blaise, love you so much, can’t wait to see you!!
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So Happy to hear your news love to all of you xxx
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Thank you so much!!! ❤️❤️
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Congrats Gabs! Wonderful news and love reading your blog posts. Travel is the best and you have a wonderful way of capturing the full spectrum of emotions and experiences it provides. All the best for the rest of your travels with the little man and baby monkey xxx
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Thank you so much for your comment, I so appreciate your words. Big love xxxxx
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CONGRATULATIONS !!!!
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Thank you 😊🌹❤️
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Congratulations to you both with baby No.2.
I enjoyed reading your adventures travelling with a toddler.
You certainly are doing a good job and are an inspiration to young couples.
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Thank you tante! Much love to you and tonton Veve xxxx
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What wonderful adventures! So amazing to hear all about them and to hear another little one will be joining in on all the fun!!! Thinking of you and sending lots of belly love from the Bells 😘
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Thank you gorgeous little family. Would love to see you guys on the east coast when we’re home! Big love to all three of you xxxx
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Ahhhhh! This is so amazing guys. Best news to wake up to. So happy and excited for you both. Enjoy your last month or so there and can’t wait to catch up when you’re back. I have loved all the updates and pics so keep them coming
Bisous!
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Hahaha I love your name! But you didn’t leave your real name! Thank you so much anyway, I so appreciate it. ❤️🌹🌈
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Huge congratulations guys xx truly beautiful news!! I love reading your blogs… This has to now be my favourite 🙌
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Thank you lovely Nikki! I hope you’re really well and I can’t wait to get our babes together once we’re home! ❤️☀️
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Gabs, a great read and even more amazing news! Congratulations to you and Shane, and i hope you enjoy the rest of your trip.
Hopefully i will see you guys next time your east side.
Rhys X
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Thanks so much Rhys. Would love to catch up when we’re back!! Hope you’re doing really well my love xxx
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Congratulations Gab! May the rest of your adventures be great and empowering ☺️
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Thank you lovely!! ❤️🌹🌈
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You have a way with words, Miss Gabrielle ✨ So excited for you to be home in Perth! And to be with you on this journey of baby #2. Love love 💗
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Thank you my beautiful friend! Can’t wait to see you back in Perth xxxx ❤️🌹❤️
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Congratulations! All the very best for the journey home and welcoming baby number two. I’ve thoroughly enjoyed reading about your adventures 😊 stay safe and keep well. Xx
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Thank you so much Loz, for getting in touch! So glad you’ve enjoyed the writing, few and far between as it has been 😂 hope you’re well xxx
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Wow i am so so happy for the 3 of you.
Cant wait to catch up once you’ve seetled back in. Enjoy the rest of this amazing life changing adventure.
Travel safe xxxxxx
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Thank you so much Antoinette! I was only thinking about you yesterday. I do hope you’re healthy and well! Can’t wait to catch up xxx big love x
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Really enjoying your account of your travels. I wish you all a safe and enjoyable time for the rest of your journey back to Oz.
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Thanks tonton! ❤️
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That is fantastic news Gabrielle and you look amazing. Congratulations to you and Shane. I have enjoyed your writings very much. The ‘Terrible Twos’ can be a challenge for any parent but like everything, they don’t last. Sounds like you have it all sorted pretty well. Big kisses. 😘
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Thank you tante Nancy!! I hope you guys are enjoying your European adventure also! As always lots of love to you both xxxxxx
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Congratulations guys❤️ Such an incredible journey! Hope you’re well x
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Thanks Eb 🌹 that it has been! We are, big love to you all xxxx
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Such exciting news. Delighted for you and can’t wait to see you all xx
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Thank you so much!! ❤️🌹
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Totally beautiful story of adventure and excitement Gab, though you definitely haven’t yet turned me off the dream of positioning ourselves over in Portugal, not just yet.
It’s so amazing to read your ventures and still feel that you’re not that far away at all.
Keep travelling safe mi amica.
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Thank you so much Jon. Portugal! Ahhh. Well do get in touch again when you need advice hahaha. Thank you for your comment, I appreciate it so much! Big love xxx
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Congratulations to you all. An amazing journey so far and to be had. Xx
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Thank you beautiful!! 🌹🌈
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Read the whole thing, loved it! Congratulations again to you all 💜 xxx
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Thank you beautiful jaye! Can’t wait to see you in Perth xxxx
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I can’t wait to hug that belly!!! Enjoy the travels and I’m looking forward to a Christmas together in Perth xxxx LOVE YOU ALL XX
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Love you xxxx can’t wait my honey!!!
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Congratulations guys that’s wonderful news!!
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Congrats beautiful humans!!! Don’t hate me, but there was a photo posted somewhere recently where I thought, that’s not the super slim Gab that I’m used to, but couldn’t decide if it was the french pastry or a baby! Please save me an hour when you’re home before heading back to Perth! Xx Bon Courage et félicitatations ma belle!
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C’est Rachel!
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Hahahaha yes. I have been trying to avoid photos 😂 😂 I always have time for you Rach, we will see you soon!!! 🌹❤️
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YAYAYAYAY! I am so so happy for you guys!! Miss you 💗💗💗💗
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Congratulations Gab & Shane I’m so excited for you both that’s terrific news !! I have loved hearing about your adventures and as a child care educator ( working with the 2-3 age group) I know to well the challenges of a two year old ! Just Where do they get their energy and every day you are surprised with what they can do or what they say, there is never a dull moment !! I do take my hat off to you both for taking on this amazing adventure with a young child . Wishing you a wonderful last few weeks on you holiday and look forward to hopefully seeing you on your return early November! Love Kelly xxx
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Thank you so much Kel, it’s definitely been eye opening to the realms of “terrible twos” as they say! I would love to see you when we’re home, let’s make it happen! Lots of love 💕
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You both are doing an inspirational job. Conquering parenting, travelling and life. You both should be so so proud!
I’m so happy for your family, baby news brings so much love and excitement.
See you when you’re home. Xxx
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Thank you so much lovely. We’re trying!! See you very soon ✈️❤️
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LOVE YOU AND PROUD OF YOU SISTER – You guys are incredible and I am so excited for you all xoxo
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Thank you beautiful! ❤️🌹😁
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